Yes Spaces
What Is a Yes Space and Why Do You Need One?
I recently discovered an amazing concept—a Yes Space. What’s that you ask? It’s a space that has been prepared in such a way that a child can be left there and be safe from harm. If something should happen and the adult got locked out of the house, the child would still be safe when the adult managed to get back inside! The child may be hungry, crying, needing a diaper change, but still safe!
Infant Area
This is a space where the child doesn’t have to hear the word “no” regardless of what is touched. And it is a space that is designed specifically for the developmental level of the child so playing is enjoyable and independent.
Over the years—as a mother, childcare provider, and now grandmother—I’ve designed more play areas than I can count. They have all been relatively safe and easy to supervise, but never to the point where there isn’t anything I would worry about if I wasn’t watching. And there’s always something I still have to say “no” to or at least quickly redirect—drawers that little fingers can get pinched in; adult-size chairs that determined climbers can easily tip over; the TV and the stash of DVDs; remote controls. You get the idea.
So how do I ever get a chance to use the bathroom in peace, let alone make an important phone call, or brew a cup of tea when I need to have eyes constantly on the child?
Kitchen Area
Before the walking stage was reached, I usually resorted to putting the child in the playpen with a special toy and then making a dash for the bathroom. This often meant I had to listen to them wail until I returned.
As they all entered the walking stage, I was afraid they could climb out of the playpen, so what now? Do I leave the child unattended on the floor and cross my fingers there’s no trouble in the next few moments? Even if nothing happens, it’s likely I’ll end up with the child outside the bathroom door banging to get in and perhaps crying as well.
Suddenly, an answer—A Yes Space! It’s not a magic solution. It takes some thought and some work to put it in place and then to make it a comfortable part of the routine for you and the child. But it’s so worth it for both of you.